Monday, February 14, 2022

The Adult Version of Hide-and-Seek

A few weeks ago, I was told by one of my mentors that "you cannot serve or lead others if you remain hidden."

The context was my reluctance to publish my articles. I have been a shy person all my life and really preferred to keep a low profile at all costs, which has resulted in a lot of missed opportunities.
Friend, if you like "hiding" like me, this might resonate with you.
As a child, did you enjoy playing hide and seek?

I did. It’s one of those games that my cousins and I played as kids. You’d look for the most hidden, darkest place in your home where you can fit your small body and stay out of sight.

Nothing’s more satisfying than outsmarting the seeker!

Hide and seek was a great game to play as kids.

But as adults?

Many of us have been playing this game, too. Oh, many of us have been playing this game for far too long and it’s no longer as wholesome as it used to be!

The problem is we’re no longer playing this game for fun, but we’re applying it to our real life.

We love to hide from a lot of things and yet we seek solutions that seem elusive—because we like to stay hidden.

Tell me if this sounds like you too…

You like hiding from new tasks that you think are challenging or are out of your comfort zone,
because you think there’s a great chance you’d fail.

You like hiding from new roles that a new job or a new business might give you, because you’re afraid the new role is too difficult for your current skills or capabilities.

You like hiding from your relatives and friends… not in the literal sense because you still see them, but you like hiding your true self from them because you fear they would judge you or criticize you for not meeting “expectations,” whatever those are!

You like hiding behind the shadow of your past. (This one’s hard to admit and maybe very hard to spot!)

What shadow am I talking about here? The shadow of your past are moments that you so easily remember!

... moments where you didn’t get that job or project that you really like.
... moments where you put a business plan on hold because you thought you’ve not prepared enough.
... moments where you felt embarrassed about your actions because you think they’ve had poor outcomes.
... moments where you felt degraded because your ideas or proposal was rejected or worse, stolen by someone else.
... moments where you felt like you were just pretending to be someone you're not–someone who is confident and smart.
... moments where you regretted not taking a chance and letting many opportunities pass by because you thought you were not ready.

I can go on and on here. You get the drift?

The point is you like hiding and the sad reality is you may not be even aware of it.

The shadow of your past is always there. And it’s just so easy for you to remember moments where you felt you’re not good enough and it takes a lot more effort to recall moments where you’ve actually won and succeeded.

You don’t celebrate your successes enough and you choose to remain hidden in the dark for so long.
Why is this happening?

You work so hard. You have big goals for yourself. You prepare and invest in your growth even sometimes to the point of overpreparation.

You sacrifice a lot of things—your time, your money, your health, your relationships—just to chase the success you want so badly and you’re left wondering why it isn’t happening to you.

You begin to assume maybe others who made it are just luckier, smarter, richer, younger/older, more experienced and more EVERYTHING than you are.

Look, I’m not in the position to tell you you’re wrong, but just look at the successful people around you. Read about their lives before they were successful and it will quickly tell you your assumptions aren’t true at all.

Nobody was born successful.

But if you are indeed hiding, you make it harder for yourself to succeed. You’re not giving yourself a chance to succeed.

All because you’re making it hard for others to find you. It makes a lot of sense, right?

In real life, there are seekers too--people who seek solutions and help that you can actually offer! And you’re not giving yourself the best opportunity or even just a good chance to be found.

Listen, no one will find you if you stay hidden, not even your loved ones.

You cannot serve others, lead others, or at the very least, lead yourself if you remain hidden all your life.

So ask yourself, are you hiding? And if you are, ask yourself why. The first step to your success may come the moment you step out of your hiding place.

You may never feel ready to come out of hiding, but you always have the choice to do it today.

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

4 Simple Things Moms Can Do to Stay Beautiful

Me and my son Marius at Century City Mall's Mother's Day event.

The Mother’s Day celebration at Century City Mall reminds moms of what truly makes us beautiful: happy and well-disciplined kids, a healthy family, and regular “me time.” Becoming a mom and talking to moms make us realize that as we age, beauty is really more about how we feel inside than how we look outside. No amount of beauty procedures or makeup can mask chronic stress, lack of confidence, and dissatisfaction with life. Century City Mall does a great job of celebrating motherhood and reminding moms of what we can do to stay beautiful inside and out.

Monday, May 14, 2018

Peripera Peri’s Ink Velvet Review: Testing the Popular K-beauty Lip Tint for Casual, Office, and Night Looks

Lip tints are extremely popular in Southeast Asia. With its comfortable and long-lasting wear plus youth-enhancing colors, this K-beauty trend is not going away anytime soon. Kristine (38, bank officer), Angel (24, mompreneur), and I test one of the most popular Korean lip tint brands, Peripera Peri’s Ink Velvet. See how these lip tints would look and perform for casual, office, and night party wear. We used the products as a lip and cheek tint.

Monday, May 7, 2018

Happy Skin Good To Go Five Minute Fresh Face Foundation & Concealer Review: Can It REALLY Survive the Philippine Heat?

Sweat-proof yet hydrating foundation for the summer? Yes, please! I tried Happy Skin’s recently released summer foundation—the Happy Skin Good to Go Five Minute Fresh Face Summer-Proof Foundation and Concealer. Well, I didn’t just try it, I subjected it to the ultimate summer test by wearing it for eight hours in the heat and humidity of Philippine summer (around 35 degrees Celsius or 95 degrees Fahrenheit). I did not turn on the AC and did general house cleaning for 3 hours to check if it’s really sweat-proof. Here’s the result.

Wednesday, April 25, 2018

Grandma Tries 7 Makeup Tips to Look Younger. Here's the Result.

You can find a lot of makeup tips to look younger online. To see if they really work, I asked my grandma whom we call nanay (a Filipino term for mother) to be my model for the day so we can test seven age-defying makeup tips.

Banila Co Dear Hydration Moisturizer, Toner, and Facial Mist Review

I have a complicated relationship with skincare products. That's because most moisturizers and toners either cause breakouts or make my skin even drier! I am so happy to find that this was not the case with Banila Co Dear Hydration Balancing Moisturizer, Toner, and Facial Mist. 

Tuesday, April 10, 2018

Maybelline Matte Brown Lipstick Swatches: Which One is Right For You?

The Maybelline matte brown lipsticks from the Color Sensational Creamy Matte collection are so versatile that you can’t go wrong with any of these. For less than $6 a lipstick, it’s easy to just grab and get all of them! But if you can only treat yourself to one to two lipsticks, this quick guide with Maybelline matte brown lipstick swatches will help you overcome your choice paralysis and pick the color that’s right for you and your lipstick needs!

Tuesday, April 3, 2018

How to Channel Your Inner Anne Curtis + BLK Cosmetics Review and Quick Tutorial

Australian-Filipina actress Anne Curtis launched her first makeup line, BLK Cosmetics, in the latter part of 2017. I had already seen BLK Cosmetics at SM Beauty counters, but I never had the chance to test them out until I saw their boutique at Trinoma where I frequently do my errands. They opened their first store at Trinoma in QC on March 24 and also recently launched their official store at Lazada.

Here’s how I tried to imitate Anne’s look using her own makeup brand.

Wednesday, March 28, 2018

3 Ways to Have the Most Beautiful Easter

Easter is the most important holiday for Christians all over the world. If you’re wondering why we have Easter eggs, that’s because the eggs symbolize new life. That represents what happened in Easter—Christ coming back to life and how we are all also given a new life through this event.

Wherever you are and no matter what your traditions and beliefs are, we can all experience the beauty of having a new life this coming Easter.

Friday, March 23, 2018

How You Can Make This Drunk Blush Look with CANMAKE

Since last year, I've been seeing a lot of ladies wearing the drunk blush look or the Igari makeup look. And what's not to love about it? It makes your skin appear youthful and glowing, much like a baby. This trend actually originated from Japan and was started  by Japanese makeup artist Shinobu Igari. Owing to its Japanese roots, I'm creating the hangover makeup look using a bestselling Japanese cosmetics brand: Canmake.

These are the products I used to get the hangover makeup look:

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